The parenting and the struggle when nature shows up stronger than nurture!

I am a life coach for foster and adoptive moms who are having a challenge with their child. 

They are struggling with behaviors, learning difficulties and doubt their ability to parent a needy child. 

I help them get them get back in charge of how to be the best parent for their child’s needs and regain confidence in themselves, and their abilities to be a foster and/or adoptive mom.

 

 

 

Do you struggle with the behavior of an adopted or foster child?

I have struggled many times with different foster and adopted children.

It isn’t easy.

Often you find yourself feeling like you have let yourself down as well as your child.

You can also experience a wide range of emotions.

Anger and self-doubt are just a couple.

Fear can be another one if you are dealing with serious issues.

As well,  anxiety can wreak havoc on the best of parents.

But, even though my journey through fostering and adoption has been rocky at the time, I have never regretted it.

I am now in the teen years with six of my children.

The eldest set of twins, now 22, are still at home as well.

Each of them has had their moments when they needed a lot of attention and therapy.

Having eight, with three sets of twins has had its challenges.

I have sat on the floor and cried.

I have wondered what was the best solution.

I have had difficulties in school, with IEP’s and non-understanding children.

I have had Children’s services called when a difficult child was trying to run away.

There’s not much I have seen or experienced.

I would not have handled this well if not for my faith and the lessons well learned in becoming a triple certified life coach.

You see, Life Coaching taught me mindfulness.

Learning to control how I thought about a lot of these behaviors etc.

I learned how to see the other side of the picture, and observe the behavior, instead of acting unwisely sometimes.

I can help you with your struggle.

You can feel a lot better about parenting difficult behaviors.

I can show you how because I’ve done it!

If you would like to talk to me click here.

Talk soon!!  Don’t stay in the struggle, there is help!

“It’s better to help a child than fix an adult”  Dave Thomas

 


How do you really get the desires of your heart?

 

 

Ok, am diving in deep fast.

I totally believe in God and all that goes with it.

I have faith, sometimes smaller than a mustard seed.

I have trust, trust that God loves me, and lives inside of me.

Spirit.  Totally know about that.  Feel it, know it, love it.

Soul.  Understand that as well.  (will explain if you don’t)

But where is my belief that miracles happen?

Where is my faith that my desires will come true?

Where do they all connect and what impact does that have?

Ok, I’m gonna explain something here that sort of doesn’t get explained.  We all have desires of the heart.  Ok, another word for dreams, dreams we have in our earthly world that we really hope will come true.

We all believe to some extent.  What is that extent?  All in, half in, maybe in?  What are we believing in?  Great question.

God says he will grant the desires of our heart, but those desires have been planted by him.  So, being a foster adoptive parent, the desire to do this has been planted by God.

Faith.  The faith to do this.  Smaller than even you can see, feel or believe, but there is faith and God honors faith.  Unless you don’t take action.  You see faith is nothing without action.

Example.  Our child abandoned, not the child we asked for, or even saw fitting in our family, but one God asked us to rescue and embrace.  Only thing we had here to cling onto was faith.  Faith that God would provide answers, protection for our kids, and provision for Isaiah.  Well He, God, did all of that, but not without our action.

Belief.  The biggie guys.  It is so hard to believe in what seems impossible, but I can testify about healed hearts, healed speech, healed legs to walk and another child  being healed from certain death.

So, the three things that we need are desire to do, faith to believe, and Belief to really believe.  But the fourth, is the necessity.  Take action on all of these. Faith, Belief,  and Desire.

How do we get it?  Ok, we are taught faith, and we are taught to believe, but what is the desire factor and how does it impact us?

Simple.  We can talk all sorts of things in our heads, we can even believe we are meant to do something, but, whether it is adoption, or fostering, or a personal issue, like weight,  you need your desire to be the same level as your belief and your faith.  Then, nothing is impossible, unless you choose to never take action.

Yup, I know this is radical, but it is true.  Your mind is the bearer of all bad thoughts, your heart tries to overcome and intervene, and your faith is struggling between the two.

Faith + belief + desire + action, the recipe for overcoming all odds.  So how do you find it?  I  found it.  It took a lot of time and years, but, I found it.

I learned to believe above all odds, have faith in that, and combine my desire for any situation with both belief and faith.  And then?  Take Action!!!!!  Magic combination.

If you need to know more please contact me.  I will always be there to answer your questions.

I am a foster/adoptive parent of special needs children, and rescued overseas children in danger.  I believe, have faith, have desire and I always take action.

If you would like a complimentary coaching session about this contact me here.