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Has your adopted child started to ask hard questions?
Has your adopted child grown into a teenager and has started asking questions? All of mine did. All eight of them. Each one, including all three sets of twins. They all had their own perspectives and reasons for asking about birth families. I have been blessed with three children from one birth family (singleton and a set of twins,) two sets of twins from another birth family, and one singleton from a different birth family. Six came literally from the hospital, one set of twins came at twenty months of age. Each outcome reaching out to three different birth families was different. We really hoped they all would work out,…
- Adoption, Allowing, Brain Trauma, Foster Parenting, Life Coaching, Parenting, Speaking, Special Needs Children
The Joys and Miracles in the Journey of Fostering and Adoption
Are you a foster parent? Or maybe you have adopted? We were foster parents and we have adopted. Most of the time it’s very rewarding. Just like having biologicals sometimes teens are challenging. But yesterday the Ancestry DNA came back for our youngest four teens. Two sets of twins, same biological mother. And the joy was unbelievable. Not only did we find that their paternal roots were exactly as I thought, but they found a new sister. That led to a very long night of getting to know another wonderful mom who adopted their sister. The face-time is set and the reunion with three adoptive families is set. This is…
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The parenting and the struggle when nature shows up stronger than nurture!
I am a life coach for foster and adoptive moms who are having a challenge with their child. They are struggling with behaviors, learning difficulties and doubt their ability to parent a needy child. I help them get them get back in charge of how to be the best parent for their child’s needs and regain confidence in themselves, and their abilities to be a foster and/or adoptive mom. Do you struggle with the behavior of an adopted or foster child? I have struggled many times with different foster and adopted children. It isn’t easy. Often you find yourself feeling like you have let yourself down as…
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How do you really get the desires of your heart?
Ok, am diving in deep fast. I totally believe in God and all that goes with it. I have faith, sometimes smaller than a mustard seed. I have trust, trust that God loves me, and lives inside of me. Spirit. Totally know about that. Feel it, know it, love it. Soul. Understand that as well. (will explain if you don’t) But where is my belief that miracles happen? Where is my faith that my desires will come true? Where do they all connect and what impact does that have? Ok, I’m gonna explain something here that sort of doesn’t get explained. We all have desires of the heart.…
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Are You Enough? Is Your Child Enough?
Are you enough for you? Do you question yourself when you are fostering a difficult child? Do you wonder sometimes about your child you adopted? If you had known how this would turn from sweet baby to difficult child? I have. I still do, about twice, or three times for four or more a month. But, then again I did the same thing with my biological children. When you foster or adopt this sweet little innocent baby, or toddler, you cannot imagine they will grow up into teenagers, or pre-teens that begin to manifest some of the behaviors they learned or inherited. Your biological children have inherited behaviors. They…
- Adoption, Allowing, Brain Trauma, Foster Parenting, Life Coaching, Parenting, Speaking, Special Needs Children
Autism.
Autism. Sucks. But does it? I have two autistic children in my life. One of my “New Thompsons'” and a grandchild. My adopted child is now 19 plus and still struggles. My grand child is just beginning, but has so many similarities. Do you realize there is no educational system past elementary to address this issue in school, at least in Georgia? Autism_does_not_go_away! Just because we reached middle school! Do you know the public school system does not address dyslexia as well? Well I guess you don’t read for the rest of your life. I have five dyslexic children. My grand baby I suspect has this as well. I…
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What do YOU want to know about Fostering, or Adoption?
Somehow, over the last day or so, I was reminded of what I needed as a new, or even seasoned, foster parent. I guess it was the training at my church. Brought back so many memories but so many questions as well. I knew nothing back then. I just had a big desire in my heart to help a child in need. My desire overcame my fear. I’m sure you relate. It’s pretty scary to take that first step. But, when that desire to be a foster, or a foster to adopt parent is in your heart, your desire dial is about a ten. Being truthful, my fear was so…
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A Walk Down Memory Lane
This past week-end we had a Foster Parent training at our church. As I was setting up snacks etc, those first words that were part of my training were hanging in the air again. Each time I came back into the room to check all was well, there would be more familiar words that I recalled, word for word. Fostering is not easy. It can be complicated. You have to have patience, along with love and kindness. Tolerance doesn’t hurt either. After twenty years you would think that the original training I had was nearly forgotten. But, when I thought about it, it was remembered because every aspect of it…
- Adoption, Brain Trauma, Foster Parenting, Life Coaching, Parenting, Speaking, Special Needs Children
The Endless Seizure Disorder
I reposted about Epileptic seizures, cause now I have four kids, four different seizure disorders. WOW! We have Multi Focal, the most scary, Generalized, Tonic and Absence seizures. And yet? Life goes on. Life is not filled with doubt, worry, or anxiety about someone having a seizure, as I know some other parents, and, epileptics are. Epilepsy does not rule our household in any way, shape or form. I could say that Autism tries to rule, but we believe we are the parents, even though sometimes, I want to go sit and cry in a corner. When I became a foster parent, I did not want to foster anyone with…
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A Seizure in the middle of nowhere?
So, I have a couple of kids who have epileptic seizures. Scary, but I know who, maybe when, never where. I have a birth mom to four who is epileptic. Needs meds to this day. I have two out of four that I know are epileptic. I know they have an older sibling who is also. So, driving down the road, when I hear ” she’s having a seizure” I expect it to be the known two, not the unknown. My miracle child who has beaten all odds, like not walking, not talking, not learning, a brain bleed, a leg brace supposed to be forever, is having her first seizure…
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