• Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    When The Honeymoon is over……what next?

    This morning I needed a plumber. This morning my plumber needed me. Why? My plumber had been together with his partner for nineteen years with no children. Three months ago, he took home his niece and nephew with guardianship, because their drug addicted mother could no longer care for them. One month ago, being compassionate, caring and trying to do the right thing, he tried to  “help” their mother. All chaos broke out. He does not understand why his efforts to be kind and caring are backfiring. A few questions and he answered all his own questions. You see, you cannot change anyone, including a 32 year old addict. All…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    So You Want To Foster To Adopt

    You are frustrated. You want to adopt a child, here, not overseas. The system is difficult, long suffering, and impossible. You decide to foster to adopt. You expect your first child is going to be the one that stays, he/she doesn’t. Then the second, the third, the group of three, none stay.  You are disillusioned. You want to give up. Why? Maybe those children were not meant to be yours long term? Maybe God just meant them to be there for you to nurture in the transition back to family who could parent? What if you were their Angel unaware in their time of need? What if you were the person…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    Somedays It Sucks!

    In everyone’s world some days just suck.  As a parent of both biological and adopted children all of them have issues on one day or another, but it sucks when more than one of them decide today is the day to just let it all out. Now we adopted because we had four kids between us that had things like, ADHD, OCD, Epilepsy, Asthma, and mild dyslexia.  Mild stuff compared to some of the kids who came along via the foster system and even the babies we adopted who have grown up now. I remember such a day when we had taken in a three year old, who turned out…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    Help! Turn Up The Volume!

    I was out on my usual hike with amazing hubby this morning. I could hear a voice calling out in the distance. It seemed to be calling for help, but I wasn’t quite sure. We stopped for a minute and listened carefully. Yup, sounded something like “help!” Some hikers passed us at that point, and I turned and asked them, “Can you year that?  Does it sound like someone calling for help?” They looked at us and replied, “Yes, it sounds like that.” Then they turned back to their conversation and walked on! We were shocked to say the least, at how casual someone could ignore what really sounded like…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    Miracles Do HAPPEN!!!!!

    I believe in miracles go here and  listen to this amazing song about ordinary miracles. In my family ordinary, everyday miracles happen, because I believe. I don’t even think about it, I just believe. I could not have done that some seventeen years ago, but my life changed. I had, HAD to, believe in ordinary, everyday miracles.  For my kids. I am in Nashville right now.  I have a child, that is legally mine, who is a walking miracle. I read up on google, who is your friend, today about his diagnosis. He should not be alive, let alone, be walking or talking or being anything other than maybe in a…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    When You Never Give Up

    I never give up. When I know deep inside that I am supposed to do something, I do it. My child Friday is like that. He has a long story that no child should have to ever endure. But he did, and he never gave up.  Neither did I. Short synopsis.  He was adopted from a Liberian orphanage at around eight years of age. He was sent back by his adoptive parents to Liberia five years later. Illegal by anyone’s standards. Lots of red tape, custody papers, a flight to get him and he came back.  Became a part of our family.  He is third from the left, in the front row, in…

  • Adoption,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    Is Your Desire Enough?

    Ok, am diving in deep fast. I totally believe in God and all that goes with it. I have faith, sometimes smaller than a mustard seed. I have trust, trust that God loves me, and lives inside of me. Spirit.  Totally know about that.  Feel it, know it, love it. Soul.  Understand that as well.  (will explain if you don’t) But where is my belief that miracles happen? Where is my faith that my desires will come true? Where do they all connect and what impact does that have? Ok, I’m gonna explain something here that sort of doesn’t get explained.  We all have desires of the heart.  Ok, another…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    Stronger!

    Islands. We cannot be islands, but there are times when we need to be. My son, Isaiah, or his real name Friday, has at many times needed in his mind to be just that.  He is the one third from the left, front row,  in the photo. An Island. Why? Because too many people had failed him.  Let him down. He felt abandoned.  Alone.  Unloved, Rejected. But strong. You see through his trials, losing his mother, losing his father when he could not provide for him anymore, losing his first adoptive family because they were too young and made mistakes, being sent back, yes “back” to Africa, being in the “interior” a…

  • Adoption,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    When The Impossible Becomes Easy

    I really wish I had a rainbow in that picture above. But a church and a steeple will do for now. I’m gonna dive in deep early.  We all have a spirit, soul, mind and flesh. Our flesh is weak.  Gives in to our desires, unless we are in mindfulness. What is that? Being present in your mind at all times.  Understanding weakness. Our minds are weak, as well as our flesh. Our soul, and our spirit are strong.  Connected. Especially in trauma, or desperation. I have two things going on right now with my children. My adopted, and my long term foster/ rescued child. My child from Africa in a…

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    When Hard Looks Like Impossible

    Ok, revealing truths here, to some, but probably most.  We rescued a child from Liberia some seven, yes seven years ago.  I wrote a series of blogs about that, which I will rescue and retrieve so you can have all of the back story.  But, now, seven, yes, seven years later I am back in rescue mode. This young man, now not quite twenty one, was thirteen and a bit when I rescued him from Liberia, after being “left”  there by his adoptive parents who lived in the USA.  I have never prosecuted, or condemned them, but I do NOT approve of their parenting decisions. So, I get him back, angry, with layers…