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    The Struggle Is Real!

    When you are a Foster Parent the struggle is REAL! There are days when you feel immensely alone. When you think you should give up. When you think nothing is working with this particular child. The thoughts of failure and wondering where to turn next, are real. I remember when my first foster children came.  Twin boys, for the weekend. They had clothes on that were too small, and held on tightly to their bottles, which looked grimy. The stared almost vacantly at me as I pasted a smile on my face through the tears I was trying to hide. They screamed every time I put them in a car…

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    When Hard Looks Like Impossible

    Ok, revealing truths here, to some, but probably most.  We rescued a child from Liberia some seven, yes seven years ago.  I wrote a series of blogs about that, which I will rescue and retrieve so you can have all of the back story.  But, now, seven, yes, seven years later I am back in rescue mode. This young man, now not quite twenty one, was thirteen and a bit when I rescued him from Liberia, after being “left”  there by his adoptive parents who lived in the USA.  I have never prosecuted, or condemned them, but I do NOT approve of their parenting decisions. So, I get him back, angry, with layers…

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    Do You Have The Heart To Foster Or Adopt?

    I didn’t want to be a foster parent. I thought my heart would be broken. I also thought I didn’t need training.  I had four grown kids. Fostering seemed scary and transitional, not permanent. But, they were thoughts, not the actuality of my experience as a foster parent.  I’ll explain a little more. The thought (note I said thought) of children coming and going was a little off putting, something I did not think I would like, or be able to parent/cope with. When in fact, it was the complete opposite.   When we had finished our training and were waiting for our approval to become adoptive parents, I was…

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    When Foster meets Biological

    I haven’t been in the system as a foster parent for several years, but, it doesn’t seem to stop teenagers in need of a place of respite from coming to my door.    When all of my family was much younger, it was pretty easy with most of the foster kids who came into care. Of course, we had rules, which, of course, we broke often in an emergency.  Most of the rules I broke, I was blessed by.  But, there were rules we had for ages of foster children for a reason.  Good solid reasons, like teenage boys coming into a situation with teenage girls.  Not a good mix.…

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    The extras we are thankful God sent to our table,

    Thanksgiving is a day but it is also a word that means give thanks for everything and everyone. I am not only thankful for my family but the “family” not related but know who are, and trust they can come and be accepted, loved, laugh, cry and be exactly who they are, warts and all, and not be judged. Yesterday, Thanksgiving, I was honored to have not only my amazing large exuberant loud family, but others who I feel like family and trust they can come in grief and sorrow, in loss, in rejection, and be loved and not expected to be anything but “RAW”. They know who they are.…

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    The Night Before Thanksgiving when all goes awry!

      Woke early, tis the eve of Thanksgiving and there is so much cooking Got breakfast, and washing, and toasted the GF bread for stuffing. Final list on my phone, including Vet trip and medicine for the dog. Got Brandy, egg nog and finally stopped.  Driving.  End of rhyming. I couldn’t possibly  begin now to outline just what can happen in a house as full as mine when you really need to get some things out of the way before the great day. I left before some were up including one that had a red patch on her calf last night which I was lead to believe was bite.  She is…