Has your adopted child started to ask hard questions?

Has your adopted child grown into a teenager and has started asking questions?

All of mine did.  All eight of them.

Each one, including all three sets of twins.

They all had their own perspectives and reasons for asking about birth families.

I have been blessed with three children from one birth family (singleton and a set of twins,) two sets of twins from another birth family, and one singleton from a different birth family.

Six came literally from the hospital, one set of twins came at twenty months of age.

Each outcome reaching out to three different birth families was different.

We really hoped they all would work out, but that, I guess, was not a reality for all of them.  All the outcomes were their choice.

But, do any of us regret reaching out?  No.

It put a lot into perspective for each of them individually.

We have recently done DNA for them with a well-known company.

The results were amazing!

My youngest four, two sets of twins, found a sister they never knew they had!  We visited and they are becoming acquainted with their younger sister.  They are lucky to have found all of their siblings.

My singleton found her birth family!  We had searched for her birth mother for years.  She is an adult now and is finding new relationships with her Nana, sisters, brothers and birth mom.

Time is the true teller of whether any or all of the relationships work, but I can tell you it does not take away from your relationship with your child.

They feel a sense of peace knowing where they came from and, for us, it did not change our relationships with our children.

If you are concerned about the questions your child is asking and would love to talk just click here, I would be happy to have a “coffee chat” on the phone with you.

One last note.  When your child begins to fly they always come back to the nest.

 

 

 

 

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