• Adoption,  Allowing,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    The Joys and Miracles in the Journey of Fostering and Adoption

    Are you a foster parent? Or maybe you have adopted? We were foster parents and we have adopted. Most of the time it’s very rewarding. Just like having biologicals sometimes teens are challenging. But yesterday the Ancestry DNA came back for our youngest four teens. Two sets of twins, same biological mother. And the joy was unbelievable. Not only did we find that their paternal roots were exactly as I thought, but they found a new sister. That led to a very long night of getting to know another wonderful mom who adopted their sister. The face-time is set and the reunion with three adoptive families is set. This is…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    Are You Enough? Is Your Child Enough?

      Are you enough for you? Do you question yourself when you are fostering a difficult child? Do you wonder sometimes about your child you adopted?  If you had  known how this would turn from sweet baby to difficult child? I have. I still do, about twice, or three times for four or more a month. But, then again I did the same thing with my biological children. When you foster or adopt this sweet little innocent baby, or toddler, you cannot imagine they will grow up into teenagers, or pre-teens that begin to manifest some of the behaviors they learned or inherited. Your biological children have inherited behaviors.  They…

  • Adoption,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    The Endless Seizure Disorder

    I reposted about Epileptic seizures, cause now I have four kids, four different seizure disorders.  WOW! We have Multi Focal, the most scary, Generalized, Tonic and Absence seizures. And yet?  Life goes on. Life is not filled with doubt, worry, or anxiety about someone having a seizure, as I know some other parents, and, epileptics are. Epilepsy does not rule our household in any way, shape or form. I could say that Autism tries to rule, but we believe we are the parents, even though sometimes, I want to go sit and cry in a corner. When I became a foster parent, I did not want to foster anyone with…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    Parenting vs Cyberspace

            This week we have been on Fall break. Four kids home from school, one at college, two working, one sleeping. Eight at home is hard. Two is easy,  four a bit harder. Anything over that? You need your radar to be very accurate. We live in a culture that would like to think we don’t have responsibility for kids after they turn eighteen. That is exactly how it is in the foster system. That is how we are programmed in this country. Why? Because all kids go to college at eighteen don’t they? I hate to disillusion  you but that is just not quite correct. Not…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    When The Honeymoon is over……what next?

    This morning I needed a plumber. This morning my plumber needed me. Why? My plumber had been together with his partner for nineteen years with no children. Three months ago, he took home his niece and nephew with guardianship, because their drug addicted mother could no longer care for them. One month ago, being compassionate, caring and trying to do the right thing, he tried to  “help” their mother. All chaos broke out. He does not understand why his efforts to be kind and caring are backfiring. A few questions and he answered all his own questions. You see, you cannot change anyone, including a 32 year old addict. All…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    So You Want To Foster To Adopt

    You are frustrated. You want to adopt a child, here, not overseas. The system is difficult, long suffering, and impossible. You decide to foster to adopt. You expect your first child is going to be the one that stays, he/she doesn’t. Then the second, the third, the group of three, none stay.  You are disillusioned. You want to give up. Why? Maybe those children were not meant to be yours long term? Maybe God just meant them to be there for you to nurture in the transition back to family who could parent? What if you were their Angel unaware in their time of need? What if you were the person…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    Miracles Do HAPPEN!!!!!

    I believe in miracles go here and  listen to this amazing song about ordinary miracles. In my family ordinary, everyday miracles happen, because I believe. I don’t even think about it, I just believe. I could not have done that some seventeen years ago, but my life changed. I had, HAD to, believe in ordinary, everyday miracles.  For my kids. I am in Nashville right now.  I have a child, that is legally mine, who is a walking miracle. I read up on google, who is your friend, today about his diagnosis. He should not be alive, let alone, be walking or talking or being anything other than maybe in a…

  • Adoption,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    When The Impossible Becomes Easy

    I really wish I had a rainbow in that picture above. But a church and a steeple will do for now. I’m gonna dive in deep early.  We all have a spirit, soul, mind and flesh. Our flesh is weak.  Gives in to our desires, unless we are in mindfulness. What is that? Being present in your mind at all times.  Understanding weakness. Our minds are weak, as well as our flesh. Our soul, and our spirit are strong.  Connected. Especially in trauma, or desperation. I have two things going on right now with my children. My adopted, and my long term foster/ rescued child. My child from Africa in a…

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    This really did work for me!

    I’ve been writing, writing a very important book. It’s about how I took the foster/parent training and made it work. If you are a foster/adoptive parent then you know what I am saying. The things that matter.  Bonds, families, siblings, discipline and love. I did drink a lot of coffee, but I love what this book says. You see, if you are not a foster parent, but have thought about it, you need to read this. I will explain why, right now. Years ago, some nearly twenty years, I made a decision that changed my life.  I became a foster parent.  I didn’t dream this, I didn’t crave this, it…

  • Adoption,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children

    When You Think You Can’t Handle Anymore

    So you get this child. A twin…… so two children. You know they are at risk……birth mom is an addict. Oh, and then birth mom is epileptic. Then another set of twins, same birth mom. Different issues, but same, almost, DNA All four diagnosed CP (Cerebral Palsy.) All four in intensive therapies five days a week. Two have “seizures” which look entirely different. Nothing shows up.  Two go on without any “evidence”. But, that’s not the truth.  The silent brain disease is there. But there are “ticks” or so I am told. No-one is thinking epilepsy.  No one. So the years go by and all is ok, or so you think.…