• Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    Has your adopted child started to ask hard questions?

    Has your adopted child grown into a teenager and has started asking questions? All of mine did.  All eight of them. Each one, including all three sets of twins. They all had their own perspectives and reasons for asking about birth families. I have been blessed with three children from one birth family (singleton and a set of twins,) two sets of twins from another birth family, and one singleton from a different birth family. Six came literally from the hospital, one set of twins came at twenty months of age. Each outcome reaching out to three different birth families was different. We really hoped they all would work out,…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    The Joys and Miracles in the Journey of Fostering and Adoption

    Are you a foster parent? Or maybe you have adopted? We were foster parents and we have adopted. Most of the time it’s very rewarding. Just like having biologicals sometimes teens are challenging. But yesterday the Ancestry DNA came back for our youngest four teens. Two sets of twins, same biological mother. And the joy was unbelievable. Not only did we find that their paternal roots were exactly as I thought, but they found a new sister. That led to a very long night of getting to know another wonderful mom who adopted their sister. The face-time is set and the reunion with three adoptive families is set. This is…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    Autism.

      Autism. Sucks. But does it? I have two autistic children in my life. One of my “New Thompsons'” and a grandchild. My adopted child is now 19 plus and still struggles. My grand child is just beginning, but has so many similarities. Do you realize there is no educational system past elementary to address this issue in school, at least in Georgia? Autism_does_not_go_away!  Just because we reached middle school! Do you know the public school system does not address dyslexia as well? Well I guess you don’t read for the rest of your life. I have five dyslexic children.  My grand baby I suspect has this as well. I…

  • Adoption,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    The Endless Seizure Disorder

    I reposted about Epileptic seizures, cause now I have four kids, four different seizure disorders.  WOW! We have Multi Focal, the most scary, Generalized, Tonic and Absence seizures. And yet?  Life goes on. Life is not filled with doubt, worry, or anxiety about someone having a seizure, as I know some other parents, and, epileptics are. Epilepsy does not rule our household in any way, shape or form. I could say that Autism tries to rule, but we believe we are the parents, even though sometimes, I want to go sit and cry in a corner. When I became a foster parent, I did not want to foster anyone with…

  • Adoption,  Foster Parenting,  Parenting,  Special Needs Children,  Uncategorized

    The Struggle Is Real!

    When you are a Foster Parent the struggle is REAL! There are days when you feel immensely alone. When you think you should give up. When you think nothing is working with this particular child. The thoughts of failure and wondering where to turn next, are real. I remember when my first foster children came.  Twin boys, for the weekend. They had clothes on that were too small, and held on tightly to their bottles, which looked grimy. The stared almost vacantly at me as I pasted a smile on my face through the tears I was trying to hide. They screamed every time I put them in a car…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    The Joys and Challenges of The Foster/Adoptive Parent

    Adopting eight kids is a joy! Adopting eight kids is a challenge! One set of twins is a joyful surprise! Three sets of twins is a challenge! But, do not get me wrong, all children bring joy! All children bring challenges. Adopted, fostered or biological. My journey brought much joy and restoration to my life. You see I lost an identical twin with my second pregnancy. I was blessed with one of them, but was sad that I never conceived another set of twins. I knew I was a twin mum.   So did God!  He sent three sets! Often when there is an adoption through a private agency that…

  • Adoption,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting

    Is Being a Foster Parent Right For Me?

    What is being a foster parent like? I asked the same question. How can you know though without trying? You can’t.  (Keep reading for the special offer!) You find you have this desire or passion but are wary about acting on it. I did too. I was positive I was not going to foster.  I was only going to adopt. I would have missed out on a world of surprises and deep gratification. But I didn’t have any clue about what it was really like going through the classes. Oh, I knew enough, but not enough to make me step up. I only stepped up because of an urgent phone…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    When you are burned and want to give up……..

    You finally got a child, a foster child. You’ve never had a child of your own, or, your passion to have one is intense. It’s a small, helpless child. You got all the information and your head is reeling. This child needs a home and ours has been chosen. You love unconditionally. You let down all your barriers. Your heart is ruling your head. And, bam.  There comes a relative, mom or dad.  From nowhere.  One who you think is not fit. In your heart, this child is yours. You cannot think of any good qualities this relative may have. You can only see what you can give. Familiar? There…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    When The Honeymoon is over……what next?

    This morning I needed a plumber. This morning my plumber needed me. Why? My plumber had been together with his partner for nineteen years with no children. Three months ago, he took home his niece and nephew with guardianship, because their drug addicted mother could no longer care for them. One month ago, being compassionate, caring and trying to do the right thing, he tried to  “help” their mother. All chaos broke out. He does not understand why his efforts to be kind and caring are backfiring. A few questions and he answered all his own questions. You see, you cannot change anyone, including a 32 year old addict. All…

  • Adoption,  Allowing,  Brain Trauma,  Foster Parenting,  Life Coaching,  Parenting,  Speaking,  Special Needs Children

    When You Never Give Up

    I never give up. When I know deep inside that I am supposed to do something, I do it. My child Friday is like that. He has a long story that no child should have to ever endure. But he did, and he never gave up.  Neither did I. Short synopsis.  He was adopted from a Liberian orphanage at around eight years of age. He was sent back by his adoptive parents to Liberia five years later. Illegal by anyone’s standards. Lots of red tape, custody papers, a flight to get him and he came back.  Became a part of our family.  He is third from the left, in the front row, in…