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    How Often Do You Dream?

      I have been told from a very young age that my head is in the clouds. I dream too much. I want too much. I expect too much. I AM TOO MUCH!!!!! I will tell you that yup I do all of that.  I dream, I want, I expect, and I don’t doubt any of it is coming to me, because, why? WHY? For most people, including some of my close family and friends, I am too much, I do dream too much, I do want too much and I do expect too much.  Because, I’ve not only earned it, but I’ve dreamed it and expected it to happen.…

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    New territories….exciting possibilities!

    I am passionate about what I call the “Lost Children”. These are the children that are lost in “systems”, drugs, and abuse. When do we step up? There is a remnant that do. I’ve met some of you. You are as passionate as I am. But how do we spread the awareness of this “lost world” of children? Well, that is what I have pondered, wondered, and explored how I could change, or implement change, about awareness of the orphans. As little as the middle of the last century, when I was born, there were no orphans, no “lost” children, because the church took  care of these kids whose parents…

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    The Scary Part……Neurologist

    So tomorrow we see the Neurologist. She has had a headache since the seizure last Saturday night. She is on anti-seizure medicine, but what is causing this? In hindsight, I have seen unusual behavior from her in the last six months. I saw the same thing when she was coming out of the seizure. The behavior is gone. After taking anti-seizure medicine. I thought it came from just “teenager” behavior. She is almost 16. She has never had a behavior or discipline issue. She is sweet, respectful, determined, stubborn, but that is her. If she wasn’t strong, she would not be alive. So, how has the last few days been?…

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    Somedays It Sucks, just sayin’

      Well, somedays it sucks.  You know, or maybe you don’t, but as a positive, a focused on going forward person, there are days.  There are valleys, and peaks, and crap  walking through the valley. When you are on the peak, or the mountain, all is rosy, wonderful, all looks positive and amazing.  But, when you are hiking, as I do every morning, you go up the hill, or mountain, and then you come down.  Down to the valley. I have noticed when I am hiking up the hill, I am sometimes looking for the resting place, focused on getting to the goal, like the top of the mountain.  Why?…

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    What IF?

    What if? What if there was peace in the world? What if you never know what you are here to do? What if you had been born to a different mother? What if you didn’t struggle with day to day stuff? What if it was all perfect? What if the grass really was greener on the other side of the hill? What if you could leave your story behind………………….? You know, the one that you can’t get past, the one that makes you feel guilty. What if there was more love? What if there were no orphans? What if the homeless, and lost children were taken care of? What if there…

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    The Joys Of Teenagers or The Monster In The Drain

      As a mother of twelve, four grown with families, and eight at home, I am constantly alarmed at what six teenagers can do to their rooms.  The two twin twenty year olds are a whole other scenario. Lets start in the basement.  Four girls, two nearly eighteen with their own rooms, and two (twin) nearly sixteen year olds in a shared room. One bathroom.   Disaster.  Could call the Health Department. I do check this, please note that.  But, I do other things in my life.  Mothers have lives too, so they cannot always collect all the washing, or clean up every mess in the lives of eight between…

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    So… Why are we parenting differently from a Galaxy far far away?

        So, we are coming home from the beach today. Need to set alarms early, like, 6a.m. cause I got five kids with me. Sheets off all beds, towels in the wash, all bags packed as well as food. Breakfast………….mmmmm………… different story. Two get up.  GREAT!  Three are dragging.  One has personal stuff. Make-up, hair, appearance. Two (twins) who are the youngest think they are exempt. Phones are really important.  Like what are their friends doing? Like in my grandkids, also coming home from the beach. Finally out the door, made it in just over an hour.  Record time. Anyone with large families will get this.  Two, one, easy…

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    The Dynamics of The Blended Family

    We are a multi level blended family.  Me, two kids, marries Amazing Hubbie, no kids.  I have two, then we make another two,  making four, then adopt eight.  Multi layers. All are different with some similar.  That makes no sense, but makes sense to a certain degree because we do have sibling groups,  Including three sets of twins. It is quite disarming, or cute, to find that my first two kids, by another father, are very similar to the second two biological by Amazing Hubbie. Two boys, two girls, one of each by both, and similarities in one boy, one girl and yet another set of one boy, one girl. Ok, I…

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    Adoption…. Fostering……When the paperwork creates overwhelm

    I remember very well the first time I was handed that huge wad of paperwork.  Talk about overwhelm!   Where did I start?  Lots of things ran through my head. Ah, how much do I want to do this? Surely there is an easier way? What if I don’t measure up? Why are they talking about fostering? I just want to adopt, OK? What do you mean parenting classes? And so on, and so on.  But, for me, for us, the call was greater than the paperwork.  And there is a ton.  Not for the feint of heart, but worth every minute of the process. The fingerprints, the home study,…

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    The other side of adoption

    I fostered some fifty plus children, yet did not always meet their birth parents.  Some visited, some did not.  Each child was special and for the “token” subsidy per day, well I was not making money here.  I didn’t do it for that reason.  I did it because I walked into a case workers office one Friday afternoon and saw two little boys in desperate need of care, love, and a home. Some of the kids that came across my path were etched upon my mind forever.  The baby who came into care, with dark brown hair, and olive skin, but upon bathing was blonde and fair.  A product of…